5 Tips to Supercharge Coping & Healing
1. Focus On Your Natural
Resilience, the ability to bounce back, is your birthright. It
doesn't matter your history or personality. Everyone has the capacity for
greater resilience. In fact, in a recent research study guess what the primary
factor was for predicting whether or not someone recuperated from a stressor
quickly? Whether or not they thought
they were resilient. Whoa! Now,
that is powerful.
2. Feel Your Emotions Fully.
This may be the last thing you want to do, but experiencing a
wide range of emotions is healthy (not too mention inevitable). With that, it
is normal to try to avoid, suppress, or numb those painful, uncomfortable, or
scary emotions. However, that often only makes things worse and leads to
addictive or destructive behaviors. Remember that feelings are temporary. They
may pass like a kidney stone, but they will pass.
Tip: Don't make important decisions while in the throes of powerful or
negative emotions. Your future self will thank you.
3. Become More Aware of
Start to notice your habitual trains of thinking. Memory is
powerful, but also quite fallible. Your memories are not
accurate video cameras of events in your past. Just like
everyone else, your memories are incredibly biased and even change over time!
Gaining awareness of when your thoughts are on auto-pilot allows you to
question and interrupt these disempowering thinking patterns in order to feel
**Fire Up Your Coping Muscles: Write down what you are grateful for
each day, even if the list only contains "small" things such as
eating or getting out of bed. This is proven to increase energy, optimism, and
overall happiness & well-being.**
4. Distraction Is a Great
Stay busy. Get active. Try new activities. Meet new people. Why
not take up a new hobby or reignite an old passion like writing, singing,
dancing, drawing, or solving puzzles? This will move you forward in the healing
process and curb depression via "behavioral activation."
Throughout time, human beings have faced great adversity, but
cultivated learning, growth, and wisdom as a result. Be kind with yourself and
patient with the process. There will be days you don't even want to get out of
bed because it feels like the pain will never subside. But, you are not alone.
Enlist the power of social support. Your built-in psychological immune system
is starting to heal you from the inside-out (even though it may not go as fast
as you want it to). And remember, your past does not dictate your future. As
Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert's research shows, humans are notoriously bad
at predicting the future and also how they will feel in the future.
You are stronger than you think. You are loved.